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No one plans for their marriage to end, and no one expects their home sale to get caught in the crossfire. But for divorcing couples, real estate listings can be a battleground.

The real estate market is constantly shifting, and not everyone feels it the same. For divorcing couples, selling the family home can be one of the most difficult and exhausting parts of the entire process.

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In today’s market, buyers are seeking move-in-ready homes and quick turnarounds, making divorce listings less desirable. The condition, timing and success of a real estate listing are extremely important, and without guidance from an expert, clients may miss opportunities and the best possible outcome.

The challenges in a divorce listing

Selling a home is rarely simple, but when a divorce is involved, it can complicate things further. Oftentimes, divorce listings are weighed down by emotions, financial constraints and conflicting partners. As agents, it’s important to recognize how these challenges affect not only the transaction but the people involved.

Deferred maintenance

When going through a divorce, it is easy for the home to become an afterthought. With emotional exhaustion, legal fees and the mental strain of it all, upkeep can easily fall through the cracks, resulting in peeling paint, leaky faucets, outdated fixtures, stained carpets and overgrown landscaping. 

What sellers don’t realize is that those “small cosmetic flaws” are huge red flags to potential buyers. Buyers are evaluating the aesthetics and the care history of the home. These signs of deferred maintenance can send a message that the home is neglected, raising concerns about hidden issues and future expenses. These signs of neglect can drive buyers away before they ever walk through the door.

Repairs and staging

During a divorce, renovations and minor updates like painting a wall, swapping hardware, or decluttering become a conflict and can seem downright impossible. While a well-staged home sells faster and for a higher price, couples who can’t align on a plan or don’t have the emotional capacity to execute one can ultimately delay and impact the sale of the home.

When sellers miss their window to make the home move-in ready, listings can start to stagnate and receive significantly lower offers.

Mismatched goals

Perhaps the biggest challenge lies in navigating both perspectives. One spouse may be eager to move on and list immediately, while the other is still emotionally attached or resistant to selling at all.

Sometimes both parties want to sell, but disagree on timing, pricing or what a “fair deal” looks like. This creates friction that seeps into every decision, ultimately creating uncertainty for potential buyers, who can sense hesitation or conflict and may be wary of stepping into a complicated situation.

This can result in reduced buyer confidence, weaker offers and an uphill battle to get the home sold at its true value.

How real estate experts can help

Real estate agents act as both guides and neutral third-party mediators to help guide their clients through the process. Divorce listings require emotional understanding, market expertise and conflict. Guiding both parties toward their shared goal: a successful sale that serves everyone’s best interest.

Here are a few ways to effectively support clients navigating a divorce-driven sale:

• Assessing the current condition and market value of the home
  
• Offering cost-effective renovations to boost curb appeal
  
• Connecting sellers with reliable contractors and resources
  
• Setting realistic expectations based on current market trends
  
• Managing timelines and help navigate emotional roadblocks

And above all, we lead with compassion and professionalism.

Real estate professionals know this isn’t just a transaction; it’s a turning point in people’s lives. That’s why we prioritize empathy just as much as expertise.

A path forward

No one goes into a marriage expecting it to end, and no one imagines that selling a home could be one of the hardest parts of the divorce. But with the right guidance, it doesn’t have to be.

Real estate professionals aren’t just here to list properties; we’re here to offer solutions during some of life’s most challenging transitions. For divorcing couples trying to sell their home in today’s market, the right agent can make all the difference between chaos and clarity, conflict and closure.

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Labor Day is marked by parades, barbecues, and a general sense of relief at the unofficial end of summer. However, the essence of Labor Day is rooted in the struggles of workers who fought for better working conditions, fair wages and reasonable hours. 

As of late, agents have had nothing but commission on the brain, but trying to define what a “fair” wage is for the value agents provide is bittersweet in our post-settlement era, where buyer agents have to prove their worth upfront to earn a paycheck at all.

While the industry is focused on commissions and continuing to make what they made pre-Aug. 17, maybe what we should be focused on is the flexibility that real estate offers and how we can improve our whole lives due to that flexibility.

After all, there’s a good chance there’s not enough business for everyone to be a full-time agent in our New Normal. Last year, the Consumer Federation of America released a report that showed that 49 percent of agents sold one or fewer homes in 2023. And that was before the rule changes.

So if you’re anywhere near that 49 percent or your business is down double-digits like many agents, what will your life look like in the future? How can you continue to support yourself and your family while spending less time closing deals and more time enjoying your personal life?

What if we stopped looking at part-time agents as less than professional and started shifting into the mindset that being an agent part-time can be a fulfilling side hustle (or main hustle) that allows you to work less, close a higher volume of business and win at our new vision of life.

The good news is that it’s 2024, and the modern workspace looks nothing like it did in the 1900s, back in the days of picking up the keys at the listing office and printing out listing books.

These days, four-day workweeks are becoming more prevalent, and technology and effective time management can allow us to complete work as it comes in rather than sitting by the phone 24/7. Maybe these rule changes are a gift in that this shift could allow us to get out of the top-producer-or-bust mind frame (which encourages a high rate of failure) and allow us to get serious about having a realistic career that encourages more work-life balance. 

As the American dream becomes harder to achieve, let’s rethink what our work-life should encompass and how we can get there with less of a hustle culture mentality.

Do agents earn enough?

Most Americans are aiming to earn enough income to be considered middle class, but this always squeezed income bracket is becoming harder to maintain as inflation continues to stifle progress and wages fail to keep up with the cost of basic necessities like food, utilities, child care, senior care and affordable housing.

In 2020, The Pew Reserach Center launched a middle class calculator, and its insights are very helpful for those who are not sure they are making “market rate” income for the job they are doing. It’s more difficult to calculate this for agents because of low inventory and over-saturation of agents in many markets. 

The median age of Realtors is 55, which shows that most of the folks in the business have either been in the business for multiple years or have joined the ranks as a second or third career choice.

The median income for U.S. households is $74,580, according to U.S. Census data from 2022, the most recent data available. According to the National Association of Realtors 2024 Member Profile, the median gross income of Realtors was $55,800 in 2023.

The average agent makes less than the median income required to qualify for “middle class” in America, and one could argue that the labor involved in navigating and closing transactions calls for appropriate compensation of commissions because the work is performed without payment upfront. 

Culture shifts around labor

A 9-to-5 at one employer for 30 years isn’t the only way to make a living anymore. When it comes to rethinking our work life, millennials especially have learned to embrace multiple income streams and career glow-ups. 

Labeled by Gallup as the “job hopping generation,” poor economic conditions have taught millennials to be self-reliant and not to rely on corporate structures for a long-term career.

Working one job for an entire career isn’t realistic anymore. Data shows that staying at a job for long periods of time almost guarantees that you are not being paid a market rate. Forbes reports that some folks are making 50 percent less than their peers by staying at their current jobs too long.

The U.S. Labor Department reports that more Americans are working two or more jobs than ever before, and women are more likely to be working multiple jobs than men.

Younger generations are creating a culture shift with the realization that they aren’t their jobs. They’re more focused on living a good life, working less, and prioritizing self-care and downtime. According to Business Insider, millennials are willing to take a 20 percent pay cut to attain a better work-life balance. 

Rethinking what work should be

The dated practice of a 40-hour workweek does not work any longer, and as our country continues to age, with 1 in 6 Americans 65 or older, it’s just not realistic. This weekend, let’s focus on honoring the evolution of work — from hard labor to flexibility. 

As you sip your beverage of choice this Labor Day, take a minute to appreciate the amazing work that you’ve done and consider how you want to move forward in your life. Ask yourself how much labor is enough and where you will draw the line between hustling and home life. Perhaps taking a step back and rethinking your workweek is one of the major opportunities that will spring up from these challenging times of change.

Rachael Hite is a business development specialist, fair housing advocate, copy editor, and former agent. Rachael is currently perfecting her long game selling forever homes in a retirement community in Northern Virginia. You can connect with her about life, marketing and business on Instagram.